how i fell in love with myself.

How I fell in love with myself.

I am not gonna lie, I have made a lot of mistakes in my life. I have done so many things which I am truly ashamed of, things I would look back upon with a big ole dose of"what the hell was I thinking".
we do this to ourselves every day, we locate where we are in our lives and what we don't like about it and ourselves. And berate the hell out of ourselves for not being perfect and mistake-free. We look at how our past actions and decisions created our present reality and mentally kick ourselves in the ass for doing whatever unfortunate thing with did to create this non-favourable current experience.

So how did I fall in love with myself?
1) know that you are completely unique
There is absolutely no one like you on this whole planet. forgive yourself for not being perfect because you are exactly how you should be right now. Cut yourself some slack. Give yourself a break. Thinking about how you would feel if your best friend came up with the same issues what would you tell them.

2) get rid of the voice that says you are not good enough
the funny thing is that the voice is just thoughts and nothing else full stop but we believe in it because a belief is a thought that we keep repeating. We have practised that negative thought so many times that it becomes a habit as breathing. Don't try to beat it off with a stick. That only enhances the negative feelings and emotions. Instead, give it some space. Acknowledge it and choose to let it go.

3) be your own advocate.
start standing up for yourself. This requires you to exploring your needs and respecting them moreover, it includes demanding that others respect them too, and not in a throwing a whiny baby temper tantrum way. it means to set boundaries. If something or someone doesn't feel right to you listen to that in a voice and choose to honour and do what does feel right.

4) get rid of those pesky limiting beliefs.
Remember: a belief is just thought that you keep repeating. Maybe it's something someone else kept repeating to you so you started to believe it, but never the less it doesn't serve you.

5) start taking action on what you want. Whether it be getting in shape saving money or have better relationships when you finally decide to take the steps necessary to change you are telling yourself: "I love you and I know you deserve the best".
fixating, rehashing, dwelling on your past only makes it was. It gives it in the present and prevention from living a better now and relating a better future and a happy one. Continuing to beat yourself over it and criticizing yourself only prevention from loving all of the great things about yourself.

well these are only guidelines that I used to follow to learn to love myself for actually, these are only steps that I followed on learning to love myself.
And to end this on a good note:

To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.
              -Robert Morley.